For those of you that have been married longer than I have, when do we get to "quit" our in-laws??
Why is it that people assume that just because you're related by blood or by marriage, that you're all supposed to like each other and can say whatever you want (including made-up stuff) whenever you want? Where is that in the rule book???
I don't want to get into any nasty details here...this isn't the place to air my family laundry. But I will say this - it is remarkable that my husband and I were able to have an enjoyable weekend, given the fact that most of his family went out of their way to ruin it.
I have hinted at this before, but at the risk of offending anyone I have to say - I have the best husband EVER. Not only is he able to not let this kind of stupid drama get under his skin, he told anyone and everyone who will listen that no matter what, Noah and I come first for him, and if that ends up being at the expense of a relationship with a family member, then so be it.
I'm going to attach one of our wedding photos, so that when I come back to re-read this post as therapy, I'll see us and be reminded of how happy we are as a family.
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Oh goodness! I've had those weekends, I don't need details, I have memories of my own details and can imagine from your hints what you went thru. But...Yeah Hubby!! I'm so glad that he did that, he absolutely needs to choose you and Noah over anyone or anything else - you have a wonderful man there! And I must add I love your wedding and family pics too - they are beautiful! You have a beautiful family!
So, back to the subject...it never ends with in-laws! Have you ever watched the show 'Everybody loves Raymond'? You are doomed to walk the earth with people we call In-Laws for the rest of your life and there is no escaping alive! Ok, it's not that bad I'm sure, but I thought you might need a little smile and venting pick me up. :-)
I once had a horrible weekend - one that topped all and I will never forget the way my hubby handled it. In that 5 minutes I went from absolutely devestated, thinking his entire family hated me the last 9 years all because of what 1 member (who was drunk at the time) decided to say to me and then in that same 5 minutes I saw my husband in a whole new light and absolutely fell in love deeper than I thought possible. The way he instantly reacted off pure love and protection instinct - he was completely unprepared and just like a lion protecting his cubs went off. I have never seen him like that and to think that he did that for us - against them?!? Wow!
So, when thinking about this weekend, as hard as it is, focus on that - his protection and unconditional love for you guys. Who cares what his family has to say to you, YOU are his family now and he knows that and boy are you lucky - some men never reach that point!
I hope things work themselves out and you can find peace again! Good Luck!
Live, Laugh, Love
Alicia ~ Regan and Lexi's mom
Yay hubby!
I am always so sad when I hear from my friends that their husbands don't stand up for them in front of their families. You can never get rid of the in laws (though you can do some fun searches for inlaw stories online to feel less alone. You should definitely search http://motherhooduncensored.typepad.com/motherhood_uncensored/ for in law stories and you'll feel way better about your own.), but having a husband who stands by you can make it all bearable!
Jessica
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