So you’re going to have a baby! You’ve been home studied, finger printed, medically examined. Your carefully crafted family album has found its way into a certain someone’s heart, and lo and behold, she’s chosen you to receive the most precious gift – a baby. You’re matched!
Now what?
Adoptive parents preparing for a baby’s birth have everything to consider that birth parents do – and then some.
Nest Preparation
- Surf the ’net – google "new baby checklist" to gather ideas for furnishings, clothing, and supplies you need.
- Ask other mothers what you really need.
- Invest in a comprehensive book of childcare – look for one by highly reliable pediatrician (and father of eight, including one adopted!) Dr. William Sears.
Medical Care
- Again, other mothers are your best resource – ask them about local pediatricians.
- Check out How to Choose a Pediatrician for information how to choose, what questions to ask. Then call to schedule interviews – sooner rather than later.
Support System
- Check out online adoption message boards and news groups.
If you belong to a church and your church has a prayer chain, make sure your family, your new baby, and the birth mother are on it. - If your church or mothers’ group supplies meals for new mothers, make sure they know you will need them too (have a friend tell them, if you’re shy). If you encounter negative reactions from some people (yes, it happens), shift your focus to friends who are supportive.
Your Health
It takes stamina to be a mom. So even if you’re not the one giving birth, you need to make sure you’re in the best shape for the days – and perhaps some sleep deprived nights – ahead.
- Get plenty of rest, fresh air, exercise.
- Eat healthful foods and take a good multivitamin.
- Be ready to give your best to your new little one!
Final Countdown
Get your hair cut, see your dentist, have a mammogram – all those once-in-a-while things that won’t be as easy after you bring your baby home. If a holiday is coming up, address cards and do shopping . Stock up on groceries. Give your house a thorough cleaning.
Just remember, mama, life will never be the same!
Parenting like a pro:
Cloth or disposable diapers
For an evenly balanced discussion of the pros and cons of each – including skin and health care, cost, evironmental impact, and convenience -- visit Cloth vs. Disposable Diapers. Once you make a decision, either contact a diaper service to pre-order cloth, or stock up at a discount store (or online) on newborn disposables.
